How To Deal With Hate Comments? | Ashh Fantasies |

Why Do People Hate?

Dealing with hatred coming from unnecessary people is one of the biggest factors that effects your mental health as well as your overall life. This is surely confirmed that every person on this planet have received hate comments from other people.

Whenever any person tries to do something other then usual, The whole world will come right upon him telling the difference between right and wrong as if the person himself is blind. People will always troll you when they find you doing something which they can't do,and that is the basic fundamental of human psychology.

            Starting from the very start; For instance, If a person has done something which others can only think of, which others can only admire from far away, They will mock him to cool the fire inside themselves. They will disgrace him just to feel bigger, But that can break the heart of someone into million little pieces which can never be healed. But the question arises how to deal with such people who always poke their noses in matters of others, Who can;t appreciate others,who only know how to make fun of others.

"The one and only way to deal with hate is to love."This again may sound very basic but that's what the reality is. To solve any problem we have to think the opposite of what's happening.Usually what we do after coming across with such incidents,is start finding the bad in ourselves, We start thinking that their might be a lack in ourselves, We start thinking it as a advice where in reality it is just a hurdle which has arrived to make you away from from your goal.Here are some of my ways of dealing with negativity.

1.End It Even Before It Start:

Yes, End  it before even it starts. Imagine you've came across to an embarrassing situation.Before anyone could start laughing, Laugh on your own self. Trust me this works every time. Never give anyone an opportunity to laugh upon you, Rather start laughing on your own mistakes, When you start doing this, no one can make those sticky cheap comments because you have already snatched that right from them. It totally depends on you that,whom you want to give the right of commenting on your being. "If the one who is listening turns the table, the speaker will not have the ability to make any point. "

2.Draw Your Boundaries:

Always know you worth. Don't allow anyone to cross the line that you've drawn for yourself. The things with price tags always seems more valuable as coopered to the one with no labels. They came with whole instructions where as 2nd hand things comes with nothing. Never be the 2nd hand one. If someone don't respect you that is their choice, that is their opinion, that is their mindset. But if "YOU" don't respect yourself, then who's mistake is this? So always have self respect. Always believe in yourself even when the whole world is is not believing in you. Because if you will not believe on yourself, then who else will?

3.Hate vs Love:

"If someone hates you for being good and successful, love them for hating you."

YES. If everyone will start loving you, appreciating you then who will give you the kick of doing something good everyday. who will give you the daily dose of motivation? The lights are only valuable after darkness. So take every hatred as your own good.

4.Change Your Process Of Thinking:

"We cannot change the world. But we can change the glasses through which we see the world" I believe if anyone wants to achieve something in their life, he should have the ability to see things from other people's perspective. That is a skill which can solve anyyyyy hardship of life in minimum time. If someone hates you, try to think it from their perspective, Maybe they admire you secretly, maybe they want are dying for something which you have soo easily, maybe they like you and want to be like you, maybe they hide their emotions behind a thick wall of anger, maybe they secretly are insecure because they are not doing as good as you are doing in life maybe they are trying to cool down their inside fire by putting you down... Once you've u understood the point of view of the opposite person, i believe no hate comments can effect you. because you know that why they are doing such silly things now you know why they hate you.

5. Friendly Advice:

If you found someone hating you for no reason, have some time and talk to them. Talk to them where no one is around you. Talk to them about their wounds. Talk to them that how can they deal with this insecurity burning inside them. Don't talk, listen to them. Don't rush, Don't give your examples to them. Just try to be as loving as possible to such people, because in the end Love will always win over Hate.

Do let me know and share in the comment section below if you've ever came across through such situation.